How to Remember Spanish Demonstratives: The 'This and These Have Ts' Rule
Learning Spanish demonstrative adjectives—those pesky words like este, ese, and aquel—can feel like trying to memorize a map of a city you’ve never visited. You know you need to point at things, but suddenly you are paralyzed by a choice between four different words just to say "this."
If you have ever stared at a noun, completely unsure whether to say este or ese, you are not alone. It is perhaps the most common stumbling block for English speakers learning Spanish.
Fortunately, there is a simple, effective, and classic trick to mastering these words. It’s a rhythmic rule that guarantees you will choose the right word almost every time. By the end of this guide, you will no longer have to guess.
The Three Distances of Spanish
Before we get to the rule, it is crucial to understand that Spanish is more precise than English regarding distance. While English generally just uses "this" and "that," Spanish breaks it down into three levels:
Close to the speaker: Right here.
Close to the listener: Right there (near the person you are talking to).
Far from both: Way over there.
The Secret Rule: 'This and These Have Ts'
Here is the magic phrase that will save you:
"This and these have Ts; That and those, no T goes."
This simple rhyme helps you immediately distinguish between things that are close to you (este) and things that are further away (ese).
1. Close to You: 'This' and 'These' (Have T's)
If you can touch the item, or it is right next to you, you use the "T" family. Remember to match the gender and number of the noun.
Este (This - Masculine Singular)
Esta (This - Feminine Singular)
Estos (These - Masculine Plural)
Estas (These - Feminine Plural)
Example: Quiero este libro. (I want this book.)
2. Further Away: 'That' and 'Those' (No T)
If the item is further away, perhaps near the person you are talking to, you use the "No T" family.
Ese (That - Masculine Singular)
Esa (That - Feminine Singular)
Esos (Those - Masculine Plural)
Esas (Those - Feminine Plural)
Example: ¿Dónde compraste esa camisa? (Where did you buy that shirt?)
Adding the Third Level: 'Aquel' (Way Over There)
The 'T' rule covers "this" and "that," but what about things that are far away from both of you? For those, we use the aquel family. Think of these as meaning "that one over there."
Aquel (That - Masculine Singular)
Aquella (That - Feminine Singular)
Aquellos (Those - Masculine Plural)
Aquellas (Those - Feminine Plural)
Example: Mira aquella montaña. (Look at that mountain over there.)
Summary Checklist for Quick Reference
To ensure you are always correct, use this checklist:
Is it close to me? Yes -> Use a T (este/esta).
Is it close to the listener? Yes -> Use No T (ese/esa).
Is it far from both? Yes -> Use Aquel/Aquella.
Does it match the noun? Check for masculine/feminine and singular/plural.
Practice in Context: Daily Scenarios
Let's see how this rule applies in real life.
At the Table:
You want the salt right next to you.
"¿Me pasas esta sal?" (Will you pass me this salt?)
At the Store:
You are pointing to a pair of shoes a salesperson is holding.
"Me gustan esos zapatos." (I like those shoes.)
On a Walk:
You are pointing at a house across the street.
"Aquella casa es enorme." (That house over there is huge.)
Conclusion: Confidence in Every Sentence
Memorizing Spanish demonstrative adjectives does not have to be a nightmare. By using the "This and these have Ts" rule, you eliminate the guesswork and speak with more precision and confidence.
Start practicing this rule in your head whenever you look around your room. "This chair" (esta silla), "That lamp" (esa lámpara), "That poster" (aquel póster). With a little practice, it will become second nature, and you will sound like a native speaker in no time.
Master Spanish Demonstrative Adjectives: A Friendly Guide to Getting It Right Every Time